Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

Are you in an abusive relationship? 

An alcoholic or addictive relationship may be marred by abuse. This symptom list may raise ones awareness of the problem. 

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The primary sign is fear of your partner. Other signs include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, numbness, helplessness, and desperation. 

To determine whether or not you’re in an abusive relationship, answer the questions in the table below. The more questions to which you answer “yes,” the more likely your relationship is abusive. 

Signs of an Abusive Relationship 

Your Inner Feelings and Thoughts 

Do you : 

• fear your partner a large percentage of the time? 
• avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner? 
• feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner? 
• ever think you deserve to be physically hurt or mistreated? 
• sometimes wonder if you are the one who is crazy? 
• feel afraid that your partner may try to hurt or kill you? 
• feel afraid that your partner will try to take your children away? 
• feel emotionally numb or helpless? 
• think that domestic violence seems normal to you? 

Your Partner’s Violent or Threatening Behaviour 

Has your partner ever: 

• had a bad and unpredictable temper? 
• hurt you, or threatened to hurt or kill you? 
• threatened to take your children away, especially if you try to leave? 
• threatened to commit suicide, especially as a way of keeping you from leaving? 
• forced you to have sex when you didn’t want to? 
• destroyed your belongings or household objects? 

Your Partner’s Controlling Behaviour 

Does your partner: 

• try to keep you from seeing your friends or family? 
• make you embarrassed to invite friends or family over to your house? 
• limit your access to money, the telephone, or the car? 
• act excessively jealous and possessive? 
• try to stop you from going where you want to go or doing what you want to do? 
• check up on you, including where you’ve been or who you’ve been with? 

Your Partner’s Belittlement of You 

Does your partner: 

• verbally abuse you? 
• humiliate or criticise you in front of others? 
• often ignore you or put down your opinions or contributions? 
• blame you for their own violent behavior? 
• objectify and disrespect those of your gender? 
• see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person? 

IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU LOVE IS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, CALL US TODAY FOR IMMEDIATE ASSISTANCE. PHONE 07 560 66315

 

Web: www.coachingwithsubstance.org.au

 

Email: info@coachingwithsubstance.org.au

ABOUT COACHING WITH SUBSTANCE (WINNER Best Not-for-Profit 2014)

We are Australia's leading award winning addiction treatment and rehab consultants for gambling, drugs, alcohol, sex, eating and internet addiction, along with eating behavioural disorders and co-dependency for Australasia and New Zealand. Call us on 07 5606 6315 if you want to speak to an Addiction Specialist.

Our Founder, Maria Pau is a 4x No. 1 best-selling author on the subjects of addiction and co-dependency and spiritual wellness. She is the Program Director of Coaching with Substance, the first of its kind in Australia as registered public benevolent institution, charity and not-for profit association that focuses on wellness using coaching principles of peak performance. She is currently completing her PhD on Recovery Coaching and is the first registered Recovery Coach in Australia.

We run a cutting edge holistic addiction treatment program and outpatient rehabilitation consultancy firm that ensures you are released from the shackles of addiction once and for all. Primary care at CWS is personalised to treat each individual using programs that integrate mind, body and soul. CWS programs are enhanced by highly effective group coaching and therapeutic processes as well as individual coaching, spiritual insights, therapy and extensive aftercare assistance.

All clients are thoroughly assessed by a highly trained and experienced recovery coach, registered provisional psychologist, ordained Taoist Monk, mental health officer and certified naturopaths (including Ayurveda and Acupuncturist). Clients may also be referred for psychometric testing and assessment, if needed. International clients welcome.

We welcome enquiries from all English speaking people from Asia, Europe, Africa, India and South America.

Alarming Gambling Statistics

What are the social and economic effects of gambling addiction? 

In 1998 the National Gambling Impact Study Commission funded a study to determine the overall cost to society posed by problem and pathological gamblers in the United States. 

The results showed that approximately $5 billion was lost annually, with an additional $40 billion in lifetime costs for productivity reductions, social services and creditor losses. Studies have concluded that two out of three pathological gamblers commit illegal acts in order to pay gambling-related debts. This places a hardship on our legal systems, prison systems and public assistance programs. 

Gambling 

The following consequences of problem gambling all result in economic costs for states, communities and individuals: 

* Job loss, unemployment 

* Debt, bankruptcy 

* Embezzlement, fraud, check forgery 

* Eviction, forced home sales 

* Crime, arrest, incarceration 

* Poor physical and mental health, suicide 

* Alcohol and drug abuse 

The families of problem gamblers also suffer greatly from physical and psychological abuse; harassment and threats from bill collectors and creditors; increased stress stemming from neglect and divorce; and the extra financial burden placed on them to repay debts. 

Sadly, children are negatively affected by gambling addiction in several ways. 

* Physical and emotional abandonment is a very real phenomenon. 

* Casino kids are left in cars or on the periphery of the gambling action while their parents gamble, or may spend hours with babysitters, thus missing the nurturing they need. 

* Children of pathological gamblers are typically abused verbally, mentally and physically by the gambler, and often even more so by the co-dependent spouse. 

* Finally, these children are much more likely to develop gambling addiction than their peers. 

Excerpted from research: Effects of Problem Gambling. California Council on Problem Gambling (Anaheim, CA); 2006. 

If you or someone you love is in the grips of GAMBLING ADDICTION please call our professionals at Coaching With Substance, Australia's leading treatment and rehab consultants for HELP. Call 1300 773 422 (7days) or  07 560 66315

 

Web: www.coachingwithsubstance.org.au

 

Email: info@coachingwithsubstance.org.au

About Coaching with Substance

Maria Pau is an award-winning addiction / co-dependency specialist and the Program Director of Coaching with Substance in Australia. We run a cutting edge holistic addiction treatment program and outpatient rehabilitation consultancy firm that ensures you are released from the shackles of addiction once and for all. 

Primary care at CWS is personalised to treat each individual using programs that integrate mind, body and soul. CWS programs are enhanced by highly effective group coaching and therapeutic processes as well as individual coaching, therapy and extensive aftercare assistance. 

All clients are thoroughly assessed by a highly trained and experienced therapist as well as a medical officer and Naturopath. Clients may also be referred for psychometric testing and assessment, if needed. International clients welcome. 

Addiction in the Family and How Its Effects Can Kill Everyone Involved

                               Addiction in the Family

Addiction in the Family Addiction is a complex issue. It affects every member of the family and can have a lasting impact on their lives. The effect on family members varies from person to person and family to family. Family members may become co-dependent on the addiction.

How Does an Addiction Develop?

Addiction is a process rather than an event. In the beginning, people often don’t experience any difficulties. As their use continues, they may begin to focus more on the alcohol, drugs or gambling than they do on the other areas of their lives. This process is often influenced by a number of factors, including the culture they live in, life events, their biological makeup and their relationships with family and friends.

Researchers have looked at genetics, environment, and the combination of these two to explain how dependence develops. Right now, it’s believed that some people are genetically susceptible to becoming dependent. But this by itself is not enough to develop an addiction. A person’s life circumstances play an important role in determining whether or not a person becomes dependent.

How Does an Addiction Affect the Family?

When a family member has a dependency, the whole family usually develops ways of coping with the problems associated with the dependency. Often, there is less communication: the family avoids talking about the issue, avoids expressing emotions, and may keep the addiction secret from the community. Some family members may take on some of the responsibilities abandoned by the addicted person. This is called co-dependency.

While these coping strategies may help the family to operate more smoothly and get along better, they may also allow the dependency to continue. Unfortunately, family members may also use alcohol, drugs or gambling themselves as a way of coping with the problems in their family.

Members of an addicted family often experience loneliness, frustration, fear, anger and shame. They may also feel a sense of hopelessness about the situation. It’s important for them to realize that the addiction is not their fault. Often, seeking outside help from a Treatment Rehab, support group or professional counsellor can help them cope with what is going on in their family.

How Does an Addiction Affect the Children?

Addiction often creates an unstable family environment. Parents may not effectively discipline their children or provide them with training in basic life skills. Children may feel insecure or unloved. They may also begin to take on adult responsibilities that are not appropriate to their age.

Children in families where an addiction is present are more likely to show anti-social behaviour and have problems such as skipping school, aggressiveness, hyperactivity and eating disorders.

Is There Any Good News?

Living with an addicted person is not easy, but most children are resilient. This means that they can overcome these difficult circumstances and become strong, healthy adults. They build on their own and others’ strengths. For those who may have resulting problems, help is available by calling us.

If you just want to do more research, a good starting point is to talk to people who have experienced a family addiction or alcoholism. Contact Al-anon or Adult Children of Alcoholics. Look in your local phone book or go to Al-anon or call us to point you in the right direction.

IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU LOVE IS IN THE GRIPS OF AN ADDICTION CALL US TODAY FOR IMMEDIATE ASSISTANCE. PHONE 07 560 66315

 

Web: www.coachingwithsubstance.org.au

Email: info@coachingwithsubstance.org.au

About Coaching With Substance

 

We are Australia's leading award winning addiction treatment and rehab consultants for gambling, drugs, alcohol, sex, eating and internet addiction, along with eating behavioural disorders and co-dependency.

Maria Pau is a 4x No. 1 best-selling author on the subjects of addiction and co-dependency and spiritual wellness. She is the Program Director of Coaching with Substance, the first registered public benevolent institution, charity and not-for profit association in Australia that focuses on wellness instead of illness, using coaching principles for peak performance. We run a cutting edge holistic addiction treatment program and outpatient rehabilitation consultancy firm that ensures you are released from the shackles of addiction once and for all.

Primary care at CWS is personalised to treat each individual using programs that integrate mind, body and soul. CWS programs are enhanced by highly effective group coaching and therapeutic processes as well as individual coaching, spiritual insights, therapy and extensive aftercare assistance.

All clients are thoroughly assessed by a highly trained and experienced recovery coach, registered provisional psychologist, ordained mystic, mental health officer and certified naturopaths (including Ayurveda and Acupuncturist). Clients may also be referred for psychometric testing and assessment, if needed. International clients welcome.

We also welcome enquiries from English speaking people from Asia, Europe, Africa, India and South America.